“But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified”. 1 Corinthians 9:27. Self-Control is a gift of grace. It has been called “discipline grace”: grace because it is free, disciplined because there is something for us to do. Self-Control may sound negative, but it is an integral part of grace itself. If we don’t control ourselves, our feelings, our appetites, our drives, and then they control us.
Self- Control is an integral part of our lives. It allows us to overcome any obstacles that we face, for example; additions, fears, behavioral attitudes and even obsession. Having Self-Control allows you to take control of your life. It also helps you to improve your relationship with the people that are around you. It helps you to develop patience which in the longer run helps you to attain happiness.
Having Self- Control permits you to manifest emotional and even mental detachment, which allows you to have peace of mind. If we lack discipline and will power, and possess a lack of desire to improve our thoughts then we will not have self -control. To have Self- Control we must tap into a source that is beyond human abilities. The first step to have self – control, is to a desire to be governed by God. God is the only one that can plant this seed in our hearts so it can be manifested in our lives.
In spite the fact that self- control is a gift and it is implied God will help us to learn, it often seems to be a lonely and implied difficult process. Every skill has to be practiced. Self- Control doesn’t come in a day. It comes in hits and misses, in successes and failures, as we try to practice it every day. “Fight the good fight of faith” 1 Timothy 6:12.
Don’t constantly put yourselves in places where your weakness will be tested, where your most difficult drives will be out on the firing line of temptation. For example if you are struggling with drinking, don’t be constantly passing by a bar, or if you struggle with smoking do not associate yourself in an environment where there will be smokers.
To learn how to control ourselves, we need to know ourselves. We need to know our weaknesses and our strengths and how to minimize the former and maximize the latter.